Arguing and fighting between siblings is normal, but you can get along. Sometimes it takes time – here are some great ideas on how to get along with your brother or sister.
Don’t get trapped
Our brothers and sisters live with us, so they know how to wind you up. If you notice your sibling trying to ‘push your buttons’ and bug you on purpose, ignore it or walk away. If you feel that you are beginning to lose the plot with them, check out our articles about anger for some ideas on how to chill out.
Talk to your sibling
If you are able to talk to them about the problem, do it with respect and in peace. Make sure you are both in a good mood, and let them know that you still love them, even if you can’t quite use that word!
Talk with a friend
If you have friends that used to fight with their siblings, ask them how they got through it. Friends often have some really good ideas on dealing with irritating brothers and sisters..
Get your feelings out
If your sibling really bugs you, get your emotions out in a private journal. This is a great way to get out all the things you are feeling inside, without hurting your sibling’s feelings and saying things you regret. But do keep it private. Sometimes, writing things down and throwing it in the garbage helps release feelings.
Find the source of the problem
Do you and your sibling fight more when you’re tired? How about when you’ve received a report card that didn’t go as well as you’d hoped? Look for the triggers that encourage you to fight and intentionally avoid fighting with your sibling during these times.
Remember the good times
Eventually you won’t be living with your sibling, so remember the good times and enjoy them as much as possible. Have fun, share your stuff (yes girls, even your clothes), and remember that your siblings can also be your friends.
Remember that you are important. Your life counts, and you can make a difference in this world. If you ever need to talk about this or anything else, feel free to get in touch with us. We’re here for you.